Make the Memories
Today I saw this terrible reel on Facebook about grandparenting. It said, “Your kids aren’t forgotten. They are deprioritized.” Implying the grandparents were not present.
That’s terrible. Listen, I know we are all busy. I work part part time and have a teeny blog ten of you read and I still don’t know where the days go. Working full time then taking care of the chores around the house and running errands working out..whatever your priorities are….they are important and time consuming. I get it.
But for goodness sake, make the memories.
Build the Castles!
Put down the phone, turn off the TV, give them your undivided attention.
When I was a mom, I was terrible at this. I home schooled, cooked, did the dishes, all the things. I was not good at stopping what I was doing and being in the moment. As a Mammy, I am different. If I was in the kitchen doing dishes and Everett wanted to play a game or Catherine wanted to read a story, whatever the request, “Yes.” I stopped what I was doing. The dishes can wait. The dishes WILL wait, trust me, they will still be there when you return!
My goal with this new season is to be present and make memories. Build the sandcastles, go to the park, take a day and go to the zoo.
Go to the Zoo! Pet the sting rays! ENJOY!!
There was a line in the Hook movie from years ago.
Quote from IMDB.com Hook Quotes
Do you feel that? I was very task oriented in my day to day living. And then Daniel left for the Navy. That was my wake-up call. I thought I invented the saying, “The days are long but the years are short.” Apparently, I did not. But there is truth to this. I know when you are a young mom and all you do is wipe noses and hineys and pick up toys, again, again and again, it’s exhausting. You make breakfast and lunch and dinner and do the dishes 6 million times. I get it.
But once Daniel left I felt the pinch of the last two and the short time I had left with them.
This isn’t to beat you up. I mean only to encourage you. No one ever put on the tombstone, “She kept the cleanest house.” No, they say “She was a loving wife and mother.”
Make the memories. No matter the stage you are in, parenting or grandparenting, seize the moments.
A few years ago I printed photos and put them in a little cheap photo album and sent it to Sterling after one of our visits. I had captured in time our visit and I wanted to be able to walk those memories with him. And, let’s face it, I’m not always going to be here. Turned out he really loved the little photo albums and I started doing it for all the grands.
I want them to be able to look back at our memories and remember me well.
Don’t we all want to be remembered well?
I love you deeply. Please let me know how I can be praying for you.